So making comments and getting feedback really helps me. Donna, he may indeed suffer from depression. Even if youre not trying to ignore him, busyness can create an emotional barrier. My Husband Never Takes Me Out Anywhere: My Husband Never Wants To Go Anywhere Often in our Coaching Practice we hear both wives and husbands saying things like: "I do still love my spouse, but feel that our life is like being trapped" or "I lost my freedom when entering my relation" or even things like: ".our life is not bad but boring." I also remember a few years ago my husband saying he would honor his boring commitment. Guess The Turd does more interesting things like eat sushi, try to look phat and fresh, and try to be a hipster. First, try to be more positive when youre around him. It can take months for them to grasp the idea that they and they alone are responsible for the choices they made and the ensuing crap storm that resulted. Don't put others before your husband. You might feel like youre not good enough or that hes finding someone else to replace you. All through his fog. So as a reward for trying to keep my marriage together I get to work harder than ever on our relationship while my character and personality is constantly on trial. On my birthday . My husband never wants to go anywhere . She does not know our situation. Even if you're not trying to ignore him, busyness can create an emotional barrier. You never know, once your husband sees what a great time you are having. This commitment keeps me here but I dont know what kind of godly marriage this is, when he contributes no energy or time to it. being a friend to. Im doing everything I can to bring the romance and passion back to our marriage while she acts miserable every day. I too am a fun person, and we dont do shi* b/c other half is content doing nothing. He has become a public figure, and the repercussions are potentially enormous. No way to win with this guy. A Comprehensive Guide to 'Vanderpump Rules' Hookups Over the Years. My husbands job was mainly to just show up and participate. Thats like saying its ok for me to walk into a bank and steal money if the security guard isnt looking. Unless I wanted to peruse thing it would have cost me between 15,000-20,000. And sometimes, those things come first. Eg 1. My dr had wanted me to start being on medication for depression but had also said things would be better if your h would change his attitude and start helping you, because this is why you are so depressed. And that choice requires both daily practice and unwavering commitment. They work, because one of my girlfriend's husband was having trouble getting hard and he ordered one.. She is so proud of . One thing that has changed a bit is that she no longer wants to have that role so much any more. He's Totally Stopped Texting You Back. In other words, I'm a good person! Peace of trash she is, I see even more with that comment she made how she wanted my children, as well as my h, I cam only imagine the bad things she told my h to get him on her side with that idea, having him think I was a terrible mother as well as wife. After my husband and I boarded the plane, I began my ritual of praying . He goes to bed whenever he wants and gets up whenever he wants. Just not appropriate to do so with anyone else. Pre-affair I was as guilty as anyone. Admitting that, its natural if you have those sentiments and are furious at him. And so, the million-dollar question isWhat inspires us to choose to be (and stay) monogamous? My own personal sob story 20 years ago was that my husband was an alcoholic, and that he was physically abusive to me. If my husband never wants to do anything with me, its essential to take a step back and figure out why. I ask because I feel exactly the same way as you. What I thought would come back to me at some point (like a true relational marriage), is no longer my dream. An issue my husband never wants to do anything with me could also mean that hes an introvert and he just needs some time alone to recharge. Suppose your husband has started working longer hours, studying for a big test, or training for a marathon. Its a vicious cycle I see repeated on many blogs. Most of our friends were developed through the people we have met in those activities (those mentioned in this post excluded). Im guilty of this some what, but all cheaters will have asob story regarding why they cheat. I'd go with an ultimatum: remind him you're not his servant, nor a . Its control, but only when he sees me doing things that dont involve him. I don't think . I do need to add it wasn't my finest moment, and I'm not proud of this. Another option is speaking to him about events that he would prefer you attend with a friend. And honestly I have done that at times. Everywhere you look there are things telling us how to be hotter in the bedroom, cook healthier more exciting menus, pick up thrilling new hobbies. I finally decided that she will never appreciate how much I did for herbefore or after her cheating. I think Ive done my share. My husband is a person who has illness after illness. Some people journal, but you dont get any input so that turns into a bitch fest/pity party if you arent careful, llol. There has to be a shift in thinking and approach here. Selfish people are extremely immersed in themselves. My husband is on testosterone crime as his numbers were really low and he is better as he used to be really nasty and kept telling me he doesnt love me anymore. And I mean that really is ALL HE EVER WANTS TO DO!!!!! PS. he says he knows I am fighting for us but he also knows me and I am just getting ready for when we divorce. This blog post will discuss the ten most common reasons why your spouse might not want to spend time with you and what you can do about it. At least mine was, for a while. Stay strong. Sometimes, your spouse needs some space and thats perfectly normal. But I fear that when you live in a kind of dull state you will gravitate towards more exciting people. And the selfish person cheating is fooling themselves and their affair partner to justify what they are doing. If I had listened to my gut and gone with my instinct, I could have stopped this all much much sooner. Prayers for peace for you. Someday shell wake up. Of course, this isnt to say that you should never come first. Question: My husband will not let me out of the house without him. i just have to keep telling myself to quit obsessing over her happiness and to just do my own thing and invite her along for the ride. My major flaw is that Im fat. I feel like I need to turn into a stepford wife. You absolutely tell it like it is. Now, us men stood there and talked about the normal stuffsports, work, kids and yes, one of the other guys did do just a little wife-bashing. We've been married for almost 30 years and have 2 children, aged 16 and 18. If youre the type of person who gets insecure and jealous when your partner talks to anyone else or even just spends time away from you, it might be time to take a step back. At the same time, dont neglect your own needs. My h would tell me, he didnt want her on medication, in the next breathe he would tell me to go take medication. Empty nest for all of us is just around the corner. In a marriage, spouses continually need each other, whether it's for emotional support during a hard time or to attend a boring work event so one doesn't have to suffer alone. I have complete clarity on this issue in my mind. Linda claims it was the other two women that were doing all of the complaining (uh, huh) and the core complaints were that their husbands never wanted to do anything and were basically boring stick-in-the-muds. I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we have a 8 week old daughter together. Lol. Make your moments together count. It's a good way to keep a relationship alive. Find ways to bond over shared experiences: taking a walk, cooking dinner, going to a concert or sporting event, or playing a board game or cards together. Just wanted to let you know I understand what youre going through, youre not alone! Showing more affection in different ways or spending more time together may help resolve the issue. The outcome is a husband who is detached and less interested in being around his wife. It's good for your health and can be a nice ritual for discussing your plans for the day. While I used to assume that he valued our time together as much as I did, and assume that he wanted to do things together, I no longer do. I try to engage him and put energy into our relationship and it helps for a few days then he is back to doing nothing. It's always healthy for the dad to bond with baby, have skin time, even if the baby is fussy. Its essential to show interest in the things your spouse enjoys, even if you dont share the same enthusiasm. he will drive an hour to see her for 20 min and goes out fo coffee and to movies, etc. At least you are trying. This includes the time during and for months after, the affair. The term refers to being "dependent" on another person and putting their needs before your own by engaging in people-pleasing behavior and caregiving. If your spouse feels like youre always trying to get him to do things or constantly talking to him, it can be tough to want to spend time with you. Dear The HPV Question, First, I want to make sure you still have HPV. I will NEVER go through this again. What to do if my husband never wants to do anything with me because of mental illness? I have to keep reminding myself that he needs time to adjust to the fact that life has changed. 6. If anyone thinks they were lured, or tricked, or coerced, or anything else into cheating on your spouse then there is an issue. But I know one thing I wont go through this again kids or not Im better than that and dont deserve it. She made sure to find me enough work to make sure I never uttered or even thought those words again! For years, the six of us and all of our kids would go camping and do other stuff together several times a year. Running around all dressed up, making and baking. my husband doesn t want to spend time with me, theres a chance he might not be intentionally ignoring you. I hope that eventually you can look back on your marriage and not look at it as wasted time. My husband retired last year and although he has time to do things, he does nothing. Since monogamy is an ongoing choice, its something that has to be inspired over the long term. I tried to strike a balance and move the conversation in a different direction. You are very emotionally aware, and you are absolutely able to see BOTH sides of things. My husband is retired and never wants to do anything. My h and I were the same, it was my h brokenness stress and depression, midlife crsis (he had these dreams of retiring at 40) too, we hadnt argued, I was loving, faithful and there for him, there was really no reason for this to happen to us. I handled it FAR better than he did, and I think I should be the one ranting and raving over how bad it made me feel. This could be an emotional affair or a physical one. Now he helps make the bed every morning or it doesnt get made. Plan a weekly date night where you go out to dinner or see a movie, Go on weekend trips together even if its just for a few hours, Make time for a weekly game night or hobby night, Exercise together this can be anything from going for a walk to playing tennis. Trusting that you have been accurate with your wife's words, I'd like to share a quote from Michael Warner's 1999 queer manifesto The Trouble With Normal, which applies to you more than you . Agreed. Im running out of ideas and shes boring the sh## outta me and shes the one who cheated. I dont husband bash has either. They didnt really do anything or go anywhere special together and to the casual observer, certainly not anything or anywhere exciting. He never wants to go anywhere, do anything or even really spend time together. Mumsnet carries some affiliate marketing links, so if you buy something through our posts, we may get a small share of the sale (more details here). The excitement and stimulation came from the illicitness of what they were doing sneaking around on their spouses like teenagers. Maybe he just shows his affection in other ways? Its called denial and justification and it is a POWERFUL thing. I dont really think badly of my husband. Stupid. Friends disappear and you can't go anywhere. My husband doesn t like spending time with my family, but why? The judge stated that nobody wins in a divorce. In answer to. We become so busy raising our kids, that we neglect to pursue our OWN interests and hobbies, especially as a couple. Not that Im interested one bit. If I would have filed at the beginning I would be years ahead in of where I am now in terms of my recovery. She treated him better during their affair then she was treating me afterward. Things have evened out quite a bit and we have some nice little teamwork going on. If you want to close the gap, try making a regular date night where you can focus on each other without distractions. Tell them, openly and honestly, how important travel is to you. Exercise, play sports, go to the gym and consider beginning each day with a walk together. I was always the family planner and organizer too. If you . And really peace for your ex too. I hate men like that. Our marriage for many years was all about our kids and their activities, sports, etc. Obviously you want to do things they would enjoy--especially action oriented activities. "My husband never wants to go anywhere, all he ever thinks about is gumbo, gogo, and dodo." gree gree , any object of contrivance used to conjure harm or evil to the recipient. If youre constantly asking your husband to spend time with you, he may feel like youre not putting in enough effort to make it happen. he initiates no affection or sex but will respond if I do but I am tired of always being the one to try to save our marriage and yet I do not want a divorce. In the midst of the fog, they can do no wrong, probably a fair way out of the fog too, before things start showing themselves for what it really was. "Be willing to hear his feedback and experiences in the marriage," says Henry. Now I am thinking of calling it quitsnever thought I would feel this way..worked so hard to keep my marriage together.but Ive been at this now for 4 years and still not sure if one day he is going to come home and say he is leaving. My husband I really never really used to go anywhere much due to work so we never really thought a time share would benefit us. See he would watch me falling and he would hold his hand out to her to help her up. Easier to blame me. c. I need to stay true to who I am. Those were the words that one of our friends told Linda recently. I loved snowboarding, my friends, my dogs, and of course, travel. I couldnt understand her whole bored thing. She said the same thing about being bored and finding excitement. Most of the Time My Husband Doesn't Want to do Sh*t 67 by Linda and Doug Those were the words that one of our friends told Linda recently Saturday night we met up with two other couples who we consider to be some of our closest friends. No matter what the level of infidelity ( from daydreaming about an ex to full blown adultery) the one constant factor in cheaters is that they chose to dishonor their commitment while people who did not cheat honored it. For example, if you dont share his love for football, he may feel like it would be a waste of time. I am asking him to step up into a role he has really never (in 26 years of marriage) had to fulfill. The affair partner wants to place the blame on the betrayed spouse. Ugh. Blessings friend! And Im but judging her about this, Im just commenting on it. I was thinking, I wonder how my h would like to see me in those clothes, all vintage like. Doug, Plus, he flatly turned down my request that he get counseling or even that WE get counseling. Weve been in your shoes and are in a unique position to put all of our experiences both good and bad, successes and failures and use them to help lead you out of the pain and into a better place. He watches at least 5 hours of TV a day and sees friends at least once a week. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. Don't get in a relationship where the main traits of a person irritates, you and don't expect those traits to just magically disappear just because you get married, Have a discussion where things do not move on until he starts answering questions, He gets on medication or he starts seeing someone to get his depression under control. And while that might sound easy enough, many of the common phrases we say in our daily lives can get in the way of achieving the goal of keeping an open dialogue between spouses. It just proves to me that I am not worth his commitment if it does. He keeps telling me I did nothing wrong, there was nothing I could have done better or different. If youre always demanding his attention, hell likely start to feel suffocated. The responsibility for what you did is totally on YOU, no one else. Also, the 21st birthday of my oldest son. He shops with me for groceries or they dont get bought. They are selfishly seeking attention, with NO intention of giving up their real relationship. He will not permit me to go out with friends or anywhere even the grocery store without his being with me. Plan weekend getaways or vacations well in advance so he has something to look forward to and can plan accordingly at work. Guess what happened, I lost focus on me again and I gained most of it back, it doesnt feel good at all. Time will tell. Of course, theres more to a relationship than physical attractionbut it is important. If he does something differently, it does not mean that it's wrong. I can definitely relate to feeling like my husband never wants to do anything with me. Its not shallow to want to be with someone who desires you. It IS easy to jump on the band wagon when everyone is picking apart their spouses. I used to have a higher regard for my wedding vows but these scars will unfortunately stay with me and so be it. Take care. People value what they invest in as opposed to what they are not invested in.. Ohh and the funny thing is, she wasnt on anything for depression. I agree with you. I hate how uncomfortable and insecure this makes me feel in our marriage. It doesn't appear in any feeds, and anyone with a direct link to it will see a message like this one. she willingly goes to counseling but I dont think think she puts much effort towards repairing our marriage. I have even pointed a few of these things out to my husband, and said.gee, what would you have done if I acted/spoke like THAT? John, its one of the hardest things to go through, I highly doubt I could go through it again. Donot tell him your every move. In that case, likely, hes just trying to better himself. I have to basically threaten with taking away screen time almost every time it is time to do something. He never raises his voice. Its not just you and him against the world. Either way, its essential to discuss whats going on and how its impacting your relationship. She got to screw another guy for 2 years and I was now bending over backwards trying to make her happywth? He had ti see her because it made her feel better, then when that wasnt working anymore, lets bring mummy dearest over from overseas to help her with her attempts at getting my h away from me. Sometimes guys just don't know how to say things. Exercise Grace, I totally agree. You words ring true, I have read it so many times in the hundreds of relationship books, when a person invests in a relationship the relationship is important to them and will do everything to preserve it. My husband said you dont know what was going on his life, what he was dealing with, etc. Im worthy f respect, from him and his family, he should stand by my every time his family disrespect me. You might be unwittingly putting distance between yourself and your partner by being too busy. But some expectations. Something along the lines of, well if he was happy he wouldnt be with me. Alternately, the affair partner wants to place the blame on the cheating spouse. Originally Published: Dec. 27, 2015. If your husband used to spend a lot of time with you and now you complain: my husband never wants to do anything with me, it can be confusing and hurtful. BUT I am so happy that this is FINALLY coming to closure for you. Our friends and their issue were on-again, off-again topics of discussion between Linda and I for a few days after our night out. Everyone makes mistakes, and your husband is no exception. We were trying to understand how they could have gotten to this place and hypothesized what could possibly be going on in their relationships, and why. The body can pass the infection. Actually.. When approaching your husband about this, don't criticize or apportion blame as this can put the other person on . Problem is, is that when I do, he texts or calls me frequently asking when Ill be home. I feel like I have to force him. It does not matter to whom you are referring.). Yup, I no longer want all the responsibility of doing it all, anymore. I do everything outside the home with friends, nothing with him. Eg, unfortunately with my h cousin it, she thought it was and when it looked like she could use it she threw herself at him like a bitch on heat. I hope its not too late. That said, anyone who knows my husband and I would say that HE is the boring one; ie, wants to stay home, etc. For example, would he prefer to spend time alone with you? Particularly in a long term relationship. If you focus on his negative qualities, itll only push him away. I shortly thereafter met Josh (he was actually my roommate!) I feel none of it was appreciated and he has a sense of entitlement. During our false R, I too felt like a fool, like I was being used. I do absolutley everything on my own. And yes, if they were that unhappy they should grow up, admit to it, and get a divorce. b. I let the selfish decisions of two very self absorbed people turn me into someone I am NOT. I have even spoken with his dr. Who says she doesnt see it yet he has all the signs. I have to beg him. I think your awesome, full of integrity and heart! Gradually, he's changed, and his hygiene has gotten worse and worse. Wishing you all the best ! You deserve to have a marriage that doesnt just survive - it thrives! He's in good form from the minute he wakes up (unlike me). 25 Signs Your Husband Doesn't Love You Anymore 1. The only activity I can get him to do is sit and eat at restaurants. I told him what I can look on his desk. Self-destruct, and take the easy way out. I love to be out and do fun things from traveling to movies to concerts etc. Rewind 10 years ago and I was a single 25-year-old freshly off finishing grad school at NYU who was moving to start a new chapter and a new job in Austin. "Love and affection should be evident not only to you, but . Five Lifestyle Rituals to Inspire Monogamy. Sometimes I feel like we divorced while staying married. Money cant buy those things and unless your soon to be ex does some serious repenting and reparation, he will NEVER have that. Push me past the point of no return. everything else is just circumstantial, and an excuse. . Dear sister, yes, these feelings haunt me daily. That made it interesting to them I suppose. Try not to take it personally if he seems distant. Once her (much older) husband started doing things to increase his T-levels, he once again became more active, horny, etc. I think I need to do the same, start giving myself the self respect and stop basing it on my h assessments of me. No, not perfectly but he COULD have asked for what he needed. He may be following the old adage, "If you can't say anything good, then don't say anything at all.". Possibility # 2: Your husband won't talk because he doesn't like conflict (the avoiding pain motive) Your husband may be upset at you for something, but not want to say anything about it for fear that it will cause conflict. This can be difficult to navigate, but dont worry were here to help! I however am back to working full time at our business since he practically decimated it with his affair partner working there so I dont have much time or inclination to be the perfect homemaker he used to be married to. And here are 9 ways you can escape awkward conversations . Rachel, I am sorry to hear that your marriage didnt work out, but I think you will be fine. This is separate from and at times in spite of, others around me. FCOL, it makes TOTAL sense. Yes! I kind of envy the people who say.we were on the verge of divorce before the affair and I can kind of see why it happened. Cuz if he doesn't communicate whatsoever, you're really just communicating with yourself. Its important to have hobbies and interests outside of your relationship. Yes, this is selfish behavior but we ALL have our emotional limits. one of the bs excuses my wife made after her affair was how shed found new excitement. Feminize me, fuck me, and make me yours. Growing up the worst thing I could say to my mother is that I was bored. Stop thinking that your way is the "right" way. Need help with your relationship? Because he is home 24/7 the bills have increased. Use that time to bond with him, leash-train and you should be good. I know my h has always been a strong capable man, full of honor, self respect and pride, it definately would not have been an easy road seeing someone else staring at you in the mirror. First, talk to him about how youre feeling and see if theres anything he can do to change the situation. Instead, he could simply be showing his love by other gestures. My son is starting his divorce proceedings this week and he has a 3 year old son. So his solution might be to avoid you, to not spend time around you. or situations/content involving minors. While your situation isnt unique, it is nevertheless not typical. At the same time, ask for them to tell you their fears or uncertainties and LISTEN. In 2006, he experienced his very first bout of acute pancreatitis, which was determined to have been caused by extremely elevated triglycerides. My husbands whore weighed roughly a hundred pounds MORE than me. Updated: June 23, 2020. If theres one thing that does not exist in a long-term marriage its that feeling of newness. When that didnt seem to work, more bad mouthing me, more wanting my family. As you say, freedom to do what you want, and in my husband's case, no mood swings, he is always just even tempered. While you may feel like youre being neglected, its important to remember that this period wont last forever. I know now we got pregnant way too early after the affair becuse Im obviously still struggling in the aftermath. In fact, that is one of the explanations we have for one our friends. It can often take the form of giving you the silent treatment . Prior to having children, we had an active social life. I cant go on like this forever. I found a good website on CPTSD, called Strength to Heal, I think. After a very entertaining and tasty dinner at a casual restaurant, we went outside to where a jazz concert was going on. Egos dont care what the external package looks like. Then he would call her because ohh it made her feel better, the. Oh, I know, EG. For nearly twenty five years before the affair he had a very traditional marriage, by both of our choices. You have your sons hearts, love, support, and respect. 20/04/2015 at 11:50 am. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Suggest ways to wind down together after a long day instead of just vegging out in front of the TV. This is not an all-inclusive list. It's an example of his own insecurity and need to control you. Do you ever feel that your husband is getting further and further away from you? After the girls were born, our social life was done as a family (due to lack of babysitters). My h was telling me on the weekend how his mistress told him, if I didnt want my children, how she would be so happy to raise them with him. he says he feels indifferent even to his family. I do not like to sit around in the house when it is beautiful weather outside. the list goes on and on and on. If you have any questions, please send us a modmail. In a vacation environment totally devoid of any stress, I couldn't stand to be in my husband's company. Depression and anxiety are both exhausting illnesses, so you must take care of yourself. If friends tend to be the parents of our kids teammates, school friends, etc. I finally found my balls and filed for divorce. I realized that I was not bored because I was always giving to our marriage and familyshe was the taker which meant she was always waiting for something to be given to her or to happen for her. 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